When Everything Is Done, I’ll Do Something for Me?

Does pleasure feel like something you’ll get to when everything else is done? Or have the things you used to enjoy started to feel distant?

In this episode of Just a Minute with Dr Kumari, clinical psychologist Dr Kumari Valentine explores how we can make room for pleasure when life is difficult, exhausting or uncertain.

Drawing on behavioural activation, we explore why waiting for motivation can leave us stuck—and how small, manageable actions can create opportunities for enjoyment, comfort and connection. Pleasure is a really important psychological state. 

You’ll hear about:

• The cycle between low mood, withdrawal and fewer rewarding experiences.

• Why motivation sometimes follows action.

• Making room for enjoyment alongside grief, illness or worry.

• Choosing activities that fit your energy and circumstances.

• Noticing a good moment without putting pressure on yourself to feel happy.

The episode includes a gentle opening practice, reflection prompts and one small experiment to try this week.

You don’t have to wait until life settles down to make room for something that nourishes you.

This episode offers general psychological education and does not replace individual assessment or treatment.